Those were good times. Times before the careers. Times before elevated responsibilities in work and life. Times before all the questions and learning and trusting of parenthood. Those were days that I highly prize because it is through those many talks and gentle and sometimes tense conversations that I learned the beginnings of understanding my wife. If truth be told, I also learned a lot about understanding myself. There is something about putting things in words that can help us recognize, realize and understand things (including ourselves) in new ways.
Those early times of self revelation and questions answered were like Christmas morning, opening presents and not sure what to expect. Now, they are like opening presents of shared experience and expected appreciation for each other. Very comfortable and valued times.
I guess I should admit that life is not bliss, entirely. There is still much to learn, and hopefully lots of experiences to share. We still have our weaknesses and foibles. Even some new ones we didn't know about back then. But we also have compensitory new strengths that have been developed through struggle and practical application. We have gained appreciation for each other and are confident that we are valued by each other. Our trust has greatly deapened. And the fact that we are trusted and have confidence in each other has helped each one of us have increased confidence and trust in our own selves, individually and as a couple.
We feel loved and that enables us to love others all the more. Of course to love our children but also to love beyond our family, friends, even sometimes strangers and some people we have adopted into our family and they feel like parts of our family.
I look at that early time in our marriage as a time of revealing ourselves to each other and building the foundation of our marriage and our family. We still add to that foundation from time to time, but the heaviest work was done in those early months and has allowed us to rest on that foundation frequently and as needed. Sometimes we laid heavily on that foundation and other times lightly but always we have depended on it as it gave us the beginnings of understanding each other. Listen to the song and see what it reminds you of.
Lou Rawls -- We Understand Each Other