So if both ways have their pluses and minuses it would seem reasonable to encourage those that are married to work toward "being one". That would allow the couple all the benefits of each gender combined. "Being one", to me, means being united or working toward the same goals together. Included in that idea is that the strengths of both spouses need to be used to further the success of the marriage and the family. We would expect in a marriage situation that the partners would learn from each other and become better rounded individuals over time, increasingly complementary and overlapping in skill sets. To me one of the best things that can happen in marriage is when both couples learn to trust, respect and then learn from each other.
Julie Hanks (click here to go to her website) is maybe best known for her singing under her maiden name Julie de Azevedo. She is also a therapist with an active practice and shares her ideas on the Internet and other media. She gave an interview on KSL T.V. recently where she described some benefits for women in thinking like a man. Here are the five ways she felt could help women:
1. Be decisive
2. Move on after mistakes
3. Making sex a priority
4. Worry less about feelings
5. Take things at face value
I HIGHLY recommend that you watch this. I think this would be a great thing to watch together to bring up some great discussion and growth. As you listen to the video think about yourself and which end of the spectrum you are and then think about your spouse and where they are at with these characteristics. My wife and I did this and we agreed that some of our individual traits are not at the typical ones you would expect for our gender. Others were quite typical. See what you come up with. I would be interested to hear what you gained from it if you will leave a comment.
Julie Hanks LCSW, "Thinking like a man can be helpful"
After all of that if you want to see one artists conception of possible differences between men and women check out the comic below. If you are already overwhelmed then just skip it.